Since we are going to upstate New York in less than a month, lots of figuring and planning is currently happening.
When are we going to leave? What is it going to look like? How are we caravaning? What are our accommodations going to look like? How are we going to make this work.
As more information is coming our way, we have more and more decisions to make. And these decisions can get overwhelming especially when you take into account all the different personalities involved. Since currently, I have just experienced an emotional meltdown, I thought I would share with you some tips to avoid one.
- Collect information. Make a list of all the information you have and look for holes. What else do you need to know to make informed decisions?
- Make a priority list for your family. How can you best advocate for your children and husband? What do you need to make this trip a positive experience? What do you know about your family that others will need to understand? For our family, we need to drive as far as we can on our children’s excitement. That will be gone shortly after we leave the driveway of our house. So I wanted to go as far as we could on the very first day.
- Personally, what are your expectations? What expectations can you forego and what are you looking forward to? For this particular trip, I was looking forward to spending significant time with my husband’s cousins/aunt and uncle from Indiana. I went into panic mode when I thought that might be taken away from me. (I didn’t realize it at the time, but after talking to Chris’s mom and making sure that got on the agenda again, my stress subsided!)
- Talk. Talk. Talk. Keep the conversation going. You don’t have to make any permanent decisions if you start talking early enough. I was hoping to caravan with Chris’s sister and brother-in-law, too, but now they will be flying. If we hadn’t kept our lines of communication open, I would have still expected them to participate in the caravan and been sorely disappointed.
- Give yourself and the family a deadline for when plans need to be set in stone, and then, keep the stone fluid for unforeseen circumstances.