Are You a Fun Mom?

Yesterday we went to the wading pool and met my  girlfriends KM and MK and their kids.  I am not kidding.  Those are their initials.  I never thought about it until now.  They were destined to be friends.  I guess that I kind of fit in with a K, but I got no M. 

But I digress.

So we were at the wading pool, and I was standing in the pool with most of the kids–not the youngest ones:  one of whom was all dressed and ready to “swim,” but all this little 15 month old wanted to do was walk laps around the pool.  For the entire time.

Suddenly, Princess Pea was in front of me squirting me with a water shooter!

You can just imagine the screaming that ensued.  Upon my shrieking all the other children in the pool decided that shooting me would be the funniest activity in which to participate.  There I was being attacked on all sides.  Sometimes I encouraged the attacks since my three year old, Dash, didn’t actually want to get into the pool.  Since he didn’t want to get into the pool, his range of terjectory (is this even a word?) was shortened, so I had to walk toward him to ensure his success of hitting his target:  ME!

As I was experiencing shockingly cold water hitting me, my pregnant friends, KM and MK, were watching.  One of them commented with a smile on her face, “It looks like Gianna’s being the fun mom!”  After she said that I was so proud of myself.  I was being a fun mom!  I wanted to give myself a pat on the back and big thumbs up.

As I was soaking in my pride and awesomeness, I became aware of what it took for me to be labeled “The Fun Mom.”

  1. It took 2 days of prep work.  In the days leading up to the wading pool, I told myself over and over again that I would have plenty of time to talk to my friends after I played with the kids.  I told myself to spend 15 minutes in the pool goofing off with the swimmers.  I told myself multiple times.  I spoke it outloud.  I whispered in my head.  The morning we went to the pool, the kids and I were in the grocery store and I thought, “this isn’t any fun for them, but I promise them that I will play with them at the pool.”
  2. I was not pregnant.  How many summers have I experienced as a pregnant mom or a mom with a little baby?  At least four, and now I need enjoy this time with the little ones I have been entrusted with while they are still little.  MK and KM are both pregnant.  KM has just over a week until her due date and has 2 other small children.  MK is in her 2nd trimester but she also has 2 other small children  so she is tired, too.  I’ve been there.  I know exactly what they are feeling.  If I can help them out by being the “fun” mom, then I will.
  3. It was very short-lived. KM and MK didn’t see me the rest of the day: crabby and short-tempered and annoyed and tired.  Not one of my children could do something right.  Even JackJack was trouble (he is dealing with diaper rash–poor dude!).  Bedtime couldn’t come soon enough and then when it finally did come, I was ready to lock their doors and throw away the keys.

I am not arguing that I can’t be a fun mom.  I can, but it takes me a lot of work to be a fun mom. Some moms are just more naturally fun.

Are You a fun Mom? 
Because if you think you aren’t, that’s okay.  Every mom can have moments that they plan to be fun.  Even if  you plan the spontenaiety–like I have to do–you can be fun everyday for a little while.

About giannarae

I am a child of God who has been given the humbling job of being a wife and a mother to 4. Those whom He has given to me are my Sweet Peas and Buddies and one Honey.
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5 Responses to Are You a Fun Mom?

  1. Yay for being the fun mom!!! :o)

    It depends on the situation whether or not I'm the “fun” one. ;o)

  2. librariane says:

    A lot of it has to do with sacrifice of self. I sometimes feel this when I get together with friends with small children–we so rarely talk when the preschooler is in the room (demanding attention). We have to go in with the mindset of 'this may not go as we had hoped, but we'll make the best of it'.

    After all, if both parties are following Jesus, we'll have all of eternity to hang out!

  3. gianna says:

    That's completely it, my dear sil. There are times that I don't get to talk to any of my friends and we have been together for 3 hours. But I've decided that just being together is sometimes all we need.
    Also, if we all just agreed to play with our kids together for even a short amount of time, they may not demand so much attention. Maybe and maybe not!

    And Jodi, I'm sure you are a fun mom!

  4. I want to be a fun mom, and sometimes I am.
    The thing that really 'gets' me is when I try to plan a fun thing, and the kids don't want to do it. *grrr* LOL

  5. Kira says:

    Ah, so THAT is the secret ~ you have to plan in advance to be the fun mom. I've been missing that step. I'm always guilty of being so happy to send them off to play in the herd while I chat with my friends, and then I'm almost resentful when my husband comes home and rolls around and wrestles and chases. He's definitely the “fun dad.”

    This is a GREAT post and I so appreciate the fact that you remember what it's like to be big and pregnant with toddlers and that you make an effort to help your friends. I had a friend who did that for me and it always blessed me tremendously.

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