What Needs to be Fixed?

Maybe, nothing!

Letting myself feel my emotions doesn’t mean that there’s a problem that needs immediate action.  It doesn’t mean that if it doesn’t get fixed now, my life is going to be ruined forever.  It doesn’t mean that I am going to feel this way forever.

It just means that I am being real and truthful about myfeelings.
That’s it.

And once I know my feelings and have let myself sit in them awhile, then, I can be strategic.  What is causing this feeling?  Do I need to get a different perspective?  Do I need to get some support?  Do I need to change a habit or pattern?  What do I need to do to help this feeling reoccur less?

Because my feelings may be legit, but they may not be right.  And I don’t want to fall into temptation of self pity too often if I can help it. 

Sitting in my feelings is one thing. 
Giving into self pity is useless.

I do NOT want my feeling-sitting to morph into self pity because self pity changes my focus on life from serving the God I love to making my life easier. 

And I’m pretty sure the Bible has words for me about that.

2 Timothy 3:2 (New International Version)

People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy,

I want to sit my feelings, plan what I need to, and get out and on with my life.  Because there is a whole lot of life to live, and  being real with my feelings makes my life so much more real!

About giannarae

I am a child of God who has been given the humbling job of being a wife and a mother to 4. Those whom He has given to me are my Sweet Peas and Buddies and one Honey.
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8 Responses to What Needs to be Fixed?

  1. Jess says:

    BUT! It can happen that our feelings are NOT our real feelings, when our bodies have failed us, when there are chemical imbalances out of our control…

    (Which is why I have such an impossible time understanding why many people believe it's okay to die of cancer or heart disease, but not suicide)

    I have hypothyroidism. When I was undiagnosed no amount of prayer could pull me out of my pit of despair, no amount of perspective could help, no amount of strategizing (except getting my sorry behind to a doctor) was going to help.

    Just sayin'.

  2. hmmm… deep thoughts and I also appreciate Jess's comments as well. I do agree we need to take charge of our feelings… and I do agree sometimes we need help to do that.

  3. Reeve says:

    I would just like to say, prayer (but, more importantly God in general) can do ANYTHING – including healing and rescuing and freeing (in response to Jess's last paragraph). Sometimes He doesn't choose to do that…but nothing is impossible with Him – NOTHING!

    (See Gianna, I DO read your blog…just my commenting needs a little work..heehe…I'm more a behind the scenes kind of girl!)

  4. gianna says:

    Hey! I don't think Jess was saying that God couldn't answer her prayer. Yes, he CAN do anything! TOTALLY! When I struggled with Post Partum
    Depression (with all my babies), the answer to my prayers that I was unable to pray due to my emotional instability was a doctor. I had to sit in those horrible horrible feelings for a week (doctor's orders) and then I called them and said, “SOMETHING IS NOT RIGHT!” And God took care of me through medical intervention. I still had some perspective, and that perspective was “I can't get out of this myself!”

  5. For me, usually once a month I have irrational feelings and will cry at the drop of a hat. (Other times I can't blame my feelings on hormones. LOL!) And at those times, I really do need to sit in my feelings – to wait them out. Nothing can be done to fix me, so I need to be patient and ask God to carry me.
    Ahhhh. He always does!

  6. izzy says:

    Such a deep and meaningful post. Thank you.

  7. Leah says:

    Acknowledging your feelings is so important as is having the strength to endure the pain of uncomfortable feelings. That is, endure instead of stuffing the feelings with soothing behaviors like snacking (guilty!) or masking the feeling with anger (guilty!) or zoning out to the TV (guilty!). I agree with your points.

  8. Jenny Aust says:

    I feel like I am constantly viewing my emotions through the lens of the character of God and His Word. I used to let my emotions simmer….I couldn't seem to ever move on if there was tension or hurt or conflict and my emotions ran me. Now, because I've taken some good advice from some older ladies, I FORCE myself to give it a day or two, and if it's still bothering me, then deal with it. Plus that forces me to align it with what I know about God.

    My emotions drive me crazy sometimes. But I've come to learn that I can't let them run my life.

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